Have I experienced trauma?

July 9, 2018

You might think that because you haven’t experienced combat, sexual assault by a stranger, a car accident, or a natural disaster, you have not experienced trauma. This common understanding of trauma makes hidden so many other types of trauma including abuse, dismissal, neglect, unpredictability, loss of control, manipulation, oppression, intergenerational trauma and the list goes […]

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10 questions to ask a potential counsellor

May 26, 2018

Choosing the right counsellor is key to success in counselling. At the same time, it can be intimidating! Finding that right person you feel safe to talk with about the most sensitive details of your life, who “gets” you, and who has the skills and expertise necessary to support you in your specific challenges and […]

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Why is setting boundaries so hard?

December 5, 2017

You are more aware about what you need to feel good in relationships, but actually asking for what you need, even from people closest to you, feels impossible. Why is this so hard?

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You have to forgive the people who hurt you & other myths about healing from trauma

November 4, 2017

If you assume that in order to heal, you must do x, y, z, even though that doesn’t feel right for you, you might end up feeling triggered, frustrated, and stuck. Let’s debunk 5 myths about healing that might be getting in your way.

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Using your emotions as a compass for living

October 19, 2017

On a moment to moment basis, emotions give us incredibly complex information about what is happening and what we need to do. What would change if you were to listen deeply to what your emotions are trying to tell you?

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When trauma changes your life path

October 11, 2017

A part of you thinks that you have missed your chance. Maybe you just want to throw up your hands and give up. You are so angry about what you lost and in a way, that anger feels good because it is justified. It is righteous. And… it keeps you stuck.

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What to do when you can’t stop thinking bad thoughts

October 3, 2017

Thinking scary thoughts often comes when we are in emotional pain. Painful thoughts and feelings fuel each other, gathering more and more power. You can interrupt this dynamic by helping yourself feel calm. Think about what already works to help you feel calm–maybe wrapping yourself in a cozy blanket or making yourself some tea. Those can be your go-to strategies when you are feeling like a victim of your own thoughts. Here are some other ideas to try.

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You crave closeness, but also it’s terrifying

September 24, 2017

You long for close friendships, or a deep relationship with a partner, but every time an actual real-life human wants to get to know you, all of a sudden it feels like too much. Why are relationships so scary?

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11 Journaling prompts for developing self-compassion

September 19, 2017

Journaling is a practice of self-compassion. It requires showing up, taking space, and having a certain level of vulnerability. In order to let the words flow freely, you must embrace imperfection.

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How to avoid being triggered by your newsfeed

September 14, 2017

Take some time to reflect on the impact of your newsfeed on your thoughts and how you feel in your body. Some questions you might want to ask yourself: what does knowing the details of peoples’ suffering actually do for me? What do I need to know? What kind of news stories inspire hope and action?

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